Arguing with parents is useful on the children’s growth!
Experts believe that psychologists can really argue with the parents of children in the future would be more self-confidence, creativity and teamwork. Hamburg psychologist Dr. Angela law Bouteflika confirmed: “The debate between the inter-generational, for the next generation, the adults took to the road is an important step.” The psychologists also talked about the controversy Important.
Because of the traditional concept of thousands of years, bound by feudal ethical code, people always feel that little children to see, experience shallow, immature, but also of their birth, they formed “an adult child listen to the words” in conclusion. Many parents do not allow children and adults to argue that they adhere to the “parental orders” doctrine. Children, then adults only “boys” are not allowed to quarrel with their parents, argue otherwise is to “treason and heresy.”
In fact, parents and children is a useful debate. Debate is to argue, debate the meaning is split on their views and debate with each other reasoning. This will help to communicate ideas, to reach a consensus through debate, to solve the problem. What is wrong about it.
Children with their parents argue is not a bad thing
German experts believe that child psychologists, parents can really argue with the children, in the future would be more self-confidence, creativity and teamwork. Hamburg psychologist Dr. Angela law Bouteflika confirmed: “The debate between the inter-generational, for the next generation, the adults took to the road is an important step.” The psychologists also talked about the controversy Important.
1, will help to find the boundaries
“We finished dry again,” her mother advised her son Lucas. 9-year-old Lucas angrily to push a chair back, top: “Why?” I still have things to do than sit here and better. “Dr. Law said that Lucas is in this provocative test of his ability to limit where. The same dead-end dead-end stage of the brain similar to quarrel with the parents make their children learn to have a chance to measure themselves. Argue is out of The direction of the state of children without a way so that they can be aware of their capabilities and the limits of where they are.
2, to form their own will
Fass said: “The dispute could help children become independent and self-confidence. Confrontation in their own feel to be heard, to know how to carry out their will.” Dispute also shows that children are going its own way, they noted that the parents are not Always correct.
3, training to deal with conflict
Angela would like to learn horse-riding, but against her mother. Her mother said: “I want to be responsible for you.” Angela countered that: “sabi of her parents, but they allow her horse.” Controversial learning. Children learn through debate controversial art. Taking into account in future work, as well as companion and the relationship may be arguable that this child is learning.
4, Love said
As the saying goes, love each other, teasing each other before. Squabble is said to the other side, you are important to me. If a person is not always associated with the World “competition,” he is said to the people around you does not matter to me.
To stimulate intellectual development
Can bring their children and their parents argued was the language of their ability to progress and to participate in the awakening of consciousness. In the debate, the child must be in accordance with their own analysis of the environmental observation, selection and use of vocabulary and learn the expressions in an attempt to systematically express their desire to view the challenges parents, the children will go a long way to stimulate the development of language skills. In addition, through the debate, children can learn argument, debate, logic skills, the children of the future development of thinking is beneficial.
Will help to form personal
Psychologists believe that the dispute can help children become independent and self-confidence. In the debate, the children will feel themselves to be heard, know how to express their will can be achieved. Dispute also shows that children’s sense of self-consciousness, is trying to go its own way. Children with their parents after the debate found that parents are not always correct. The victory in the debate, so that children will no doubt be a pleasure and a sense of achievement, both children have the opportunity to assess their skills, but also exercise their willpower.
Therefore, wise parents do not usually their will simply imposed on children, but argue for the children to create a relaxed atmosphere of equality. In the debate, parents should guidance, reasoning, not simply child’s debate is seen as disrespectful of their elders.